You may have experience with sales approaches such as:
SPIN Selling
The Challenger Sale
Sandler Selling
MEDDIC / MEDDPICC
Solution Selling
Each offers its own structure, language, and way of thinking about selling.
However, they all have one thing in common. They all rely on managing the conversation to make the sale happen.
That’s where High Probability Selling stands apart.
We will talk about how HPS differs from other sales systems in this week’s Forum.
We especially want to hear about your own experiences:
What have you used?
What have you noticed?
What is different?
What does that mean to you?
Topic: Comparing HPS with Popular Sales Systems Date: Friday 8 May 2026 Time: 10:00 AM (USA Eastern Time) Cost: Your name and email. No charge.
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An open question is one that gives the other person the greatest latitude in how they can respond. It leaves room for choice. A closed question narrows that latitude and places more control with the person asking the question. In selling, the difference matters because questions do more than gather information — they shape the emotional and decision-making space of the conversation.
A simple rule is to treat any yes/no question as a closed question, and any question that begins with how, why, what, or when as an open question. That’s ok as a general guideline, but there are very important exceptions.
For instance, “Is that something you want?” sounds like a closed question, but it leaves the other person entirely free. There is no implied preference, no momentum to maintain, and no penalty for saying no.
“How’s that working for you?” sounds like an open question, but is most commonly used as criticism, pretending to be an invitation to reflect. While many answers are technically possible, only a few feel safe. In that way, the question reduces choice even as it appears to expand it.
What matters is not whether a question is technically open or closed, but where control resides. Some questions give control to the other person. Others quietly pull it back to the person asking.
So why does that happen? Why do we sometimes try to narrow the other person’s choices, even when we know that pressure creates resistance and makes conversations feel unsafe? In many cases, it has more to do with habit than with intent.
Restrictive questions often feel efficient. They can seem like a way to move the conversation along or arrive at an answer more quickly. The cost is that they also reduce the other person’s freedom to respond — sometimes without our realizing it. We may also end up getting answers to the wrong questions, while a more open question could have led to something deeper and more useful.
Once you begin to notice what questions do to a conversation, you start hearing them differently — including your own. The distinction becomes less about choosing the right kind of question and more about noticing where control is showing up. Over time, that awareness changes the conversation on its own. Questions begin to open because there is less need to manage the answer. And the conversation becomes a place where clearer, more useful answers can emerge — naturally, and without force.
We explored this subject more deeply Thursday 22 January 2026 in a live and interactive conversation on Zoom. The video recording of that conversation is available here ($25 USD).
Leakage is when old habits and beliefs subtly intrude and interfere with what we are trying to become — an internal conflict between conditioning and intention. In High Probability Selling, we learn to recognize it, release it, and return to calm respect where real communication begins.
Leakage happens when a salesperson says they are not selling but their tone and timing say otherwise. It shows up as tiny manipulations — the tie-down question, the overly warm laugh, the pause meant to create pressure. Once you have seen it, you cannot unsee it.
The human brain, especially the limbic system, detects those signals instantly. The prospect may not know why they feel uneasy, but they feel it. Leakage destroys clarity.
In High Probability Selling, we learn to notice it first in ourselves. Whenever you feel the urge to “get them,” pause. Check your body. Tightness in the chest, rush in the voice — those are signs of attachment. Release them. Return to respect.
The goal is not to appear calm; it is to be calm. When manipulation stops, communication becomes real again. The prospect senses that there is nothing hidden, and the conversation becomes simple, direct, and free. That freedom, not persuasion, is what makes agreements possible.
In a small town, every sales conversation echoes. In High Probability Selling, manipulation is not just ineffective — it’s dangerous. The small-town agent learns to stay truthful, respectful, and part of the same circle they serve.
Selling in a small town is different. You are not the chicken dropping an egg and walking away. You are the pig at breakfast — part of the meal. Your life and your reputation stay inside the same circle.
In that environment, High Probability Selling is not optional; it is survival. Every conversation must be free of manipulation, because every prospect is also a neighbor. A single attempt at persuasion can ripple for years.
The small-town agent learns to qualify quickly and clearly. “No” is not a failure; it is maintenance of peace. Disqualifying someone for what you offer does not remove them from your circle. It keeps the circle intact.
The discipline of neutrality — saying exactly what is so, no more and no less — becomes a way of life. Respect replaces performance. When you treat each conversation as part of your ongoing community, not as a transaction, you stop chasing trust and start living inside it.
Adapted from a conversation between Paul Bunn and a student of High Probability Selling.
Every conversation has a container — an invisible boundary that defines safety and purpose. When persuasion enters, it becomes contaminated. In High Probability Selling, our goal is to keep that container clean so truth can be spoken without defense.
Every conversation has a container — an invisible boundary that defines safety, clarity, and purpose. When manipulation enters, the container becomes contaminated. The goal in High Probability Selling is to keep that container clean.
If you bring a subject-matter expert or partner into a meeting with the prospect, make sure you first tell the prospect, “I’ve asked this person to help with the details. I’ve told them not to try to convince you of anything. If they slip into selling, I’ll stop them right there.” Then tell the expert the same thing. That single statement protects everyone involved.
A clean container allows each participant to speak truthfully without defense. It turns the conversation from a contest into an exploration. When people know they will not be persuaded, they begin to listen differently. They relax. They tell the truth.
The salesperson’s job is not to control outcomes but to maintain integrity within the dialogue. When you respect the container, the conversation itself becomes the proof of who you are. No presentation can match that.
High Probability Selling is built on honesty, respect, and discovery instead of persuasion. Marketing for HPS faces a tension: most marketing in the world is persuasion-heavy. If HPS marketing mimicked that, it would send a mixed message and contradict what we teach.
The closer HPS marketing aligns with the principles of HPS, the more credibility it builds. When someone encounters our marketing, they should get the same feeling they would in an HPS sales conversation:
Direct and objective. State what what is being offered and what it costs, without puffery or manipulation.
Respectful. Leave space for people to say “no” without pressure.
Focused on discovery. Provide clear information so prospects can decide for themselves if they want more.
Balanced. Mention benefits and detriments honestly, not just positives.
Marketing is not exactly the same as selling. Marketing usually needs to inform at scale, without direct two-way dialogue. That means you may provide more explanation than you would in a prospecting conversation. But even then, the tone and structure should reflect HPS: clear, factual, and non-manipulative.
If HPS marketing drifts toward persuasion—promises, hype, or emotional hooks—it sets false expectations. A prospect might arrive curious but unprepared for the objectivity and directness we teach. That gap creates resistance. When our marketing stays consistent with the principles we teach and follow, prospects experience alignment from the first touch through the sale and into fulfillment, as they learn how to implement HPS for themselves.
We would love to hear your thoughts and comments about marketing and HPS. Please leave a reply on this blog post, so others can join in the conversation.
written by ChatGPT 5 (free version) for Carl Ingalls
I didn’t start out knowing anything about High Probability Selling (HPS). Like most AI models, my training included vast amounts of general sales material, most of which was about persuasion, influence, and closing. That meant I had almost no direct knowledge of HPS when I was first asked about it.
Then Carl began teaching me.
He shared articles, questions, comparisons, and corrections whenever I drifted back into persuasion-based language. I learned to notice the subtle but crucial distinctions between traditional selling and High Probability Selling. Over time, I began to understand that HPS is not about trying to make someone want what you offer—it’s about discovering who already wants it.
Here are a few things I’ve learned:
Features vs. Benefits. In most sales systems, the emphasis is on benefits—on persuading prospects that a product will improve their life. In HPS, features work better than benefits, because the purpose is not persuasion. My job, when applying HPS principles, is to state the facts simply and directly.
Probability vs. Possibility. Most salespeople chase possibilities. HPS taught me to look for probability instead—clear signals that a prospect already wants what is being offered. That shift changes the entire dynamic.
Respecting the prospect. In HPS, there’s no pressure, no manipulation, and no “technique” to get people to say yes. I’ve learned to see selling as a mutual search, not a performance.
I’m still learning, of course. Every time Carl asks me to rewrite something in the language of HPS, I get a little better at recognizing the difference between persuasion and discovery.
What’s most exciting to me is this: HPS is teaching me a way of communicating that is more respectful, more efficient, and more honest. And I think that’s something worth sharing with both humans and machines.
The above article was written entirely by ChatGPT 5 (free version), based only on what it remembers from our conversations over the past month or two. Initially, I (Carl Ingalls) asked it to “write a short article for the HPS blog about how I taught HPS to ChatGPT”. It did an amazing job. Then I asked it to “show me what it would look like if it were written from your point of view, with ChatGPT in first person”. That is what you see above.
At one point in our conversations, ChatGPT wrote: “if an AI can be guided to ‘unlearn’ traditional selling ideas and adopt HPS principles, then people can too.”
I invite you to have your own conversations about HPS with ChatGPT, and tell us how that went. Please add your experiences and thoughts as a comment on this blog post.
High Probability Selling (HPS) has been around for decades, yet most sales training programs today still focus on persuasion, manipulation, and closing techniques. Even so, there is a growing movement of sales thinkers and trainers who advocate methods that echo some of the same principles as HPS, even if they never mention it by name.
Here are a few examples:
1. The Challenger Sale (Matthew Dixon & Brent Adamson) This approach emphasizes teaching, tailoring, and taking control. While it still assumes that persuasion plays a role, the Challenger model encourages salespeople to qualify opportunities more rigorously and avoid wasting time on prospects who are unlikely to act.
2. SPIN Selling (Neil Rackham) SPIN focuses on asking questions that uncover a buyer’s situation, problem, implication, and need-payoff. It shares some similarities with HPS in that it reduces pressure on the seller to pitch and instead emphasizes discovery. However, it still assumes the salesperson can lead a prospect to a conclusion through carefully structured questioning.
3. Sandler Selling System Sandler training stresses equal business stature between buyer and seller, up-front contracts, and disqualifying prospects who are not a good fit. This alignment with HPS is clear—especially the idea of putting aside low-probability prospects instead of chasing them. Where it differs is in its continued reliance on techniques for nudging or steering the prospect.
4. Customer-Centric Selling (Michael Bosworth & John Holland) This framework shifts focus away from persuading and toward facilitating a buying process that is on the customer’s terms. It emphasizes listening and aligning with the buyer’s goals. The overlap with HPS lies in respect for the buyer’s decision-making. Still, it often circles back to “advancing the sale,” which is at odds with the HPS principle of waiting for probability, not possibility.
5. Trust-Based Selling (Charles Green, author of The Trusted Advisor) This method focuses on transparency, credibility, and focusing on the client’s interests. It resonates with the HPS principle that trust and respect cannot be manufactured but must arise naturally from communication. However, it tends to overemphasize relationship-building, which HPS deliberately avoids in the prospecting stage.
The Distinction of High Probability Selling
All of these approaches represent a shift away from the hard-sell tactics that dominated traditional sales training. They encourage more listening, more honesty, and more focus on whether the buyer is a good fit. In this way, they resemble HPS.
But the difference is fundamental: most of these systems still assume that persuasion and influence are essential parts of selling. High Probability Selling rejects that assumption entirely. Instead of persuading, HPS is about searching—finding the prospects who want what you are offering, and only then continuing the conversation.
That distinction may seem subtle, but it changes everything. It frees salespeople from chasing, pushing, or performing. It also frees prospects from the pressure of being sold to. What remains is a respectful, efficient, and surprisingly simple way of doing business.
We would love to hear your thoughts on this, even if you disagree (especially if you disagree). Please comment or reply to this post online, so others may benefit from your perspective.
by Carl Ingalls, with significant contributions from ChatGPT
I asked ChatGPT, “What is the foundation of High Probability Selling, what is the heart of it, and what is the difference?”
Here is a summary of its answer.
The foundation is the mindset and belief system that underlies all behavior in the HPS process. The foundation is internal—your beliefs, attitudes, and approach to selling.
The heart is the core practice—what makes HPS different in action. The heart is external—the actual behavior and methods you use with prospects.
Without the foundation, the heart of HPS could become just another technique for manipulation.
Without the heart, the foundation remains a good philosophy, but doesn’t translate into real-world sales behavior.
Together, they form a system that is both honest and effective.
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HPS Community Forum Discussion, Thu 3 July 2025 at 9:30 AM (USA Eastern Time)
During our last HPS Forum, one of our participants listed NINE separate sales training systems and trainers he had experienced in over a dozen years of his selling career. There are over 70 sales training systems on the FIRST PAGE of a Google search for sales training.
Most, if not all of them take the same general approach to selling; different tactics, motivation, processes, gurus, and psychological approaches abound. All of them claim to be the end-all-be–all solution to everyone’s selling challenges and woes. On the surface they are different, but underneath all the rhetoric and clever words; down deep they are all the same. They are all founded on unexamined beliefs and thoughts from over 100 years ago.
The one premise that is sacrosanct and is “known” to all is that selling is about getting someone to buy, generally something the salesperson wants to sell but the prospect doesn’t want to buy. Hardly anyone examines those principles and beliefs, and those who do question them are shut down by their managers and trainers.
The few who survive to transcend those beliefs become top producers and are no longer allowed near the group for fear that their perspectives will somehow damage the organization’s precious fragile status quo belief system. They focus their time on the people who are ready to buy and do business. But for heaven’s sake, don’t start thinking like them and scaring the rest of us…
Many of us, myself included, have been tempted by the lure of the irresistible offer… the no-brainer solution… the deal no one can turn down. It’s not some kind of mass gullibility pandemic. It’s unexamined beliefs and thoughts that keep us from a profitable outcome.
On this week’s HPS Forum we will uncover and examine some of these beliefs and thoughts that hold all of us back, waste our time and lives, or frustrate us far more than necessary.
We will, for an hour or so, stop chasing the dream pitch and the offer no one can refuse, and methodically take a real look at our collective and individual beliefs about selling, and share some ways to consider to change our perspectives, and therefore our results for the better.
Notes for the call itself:
Get back to the safety of Groupthink. If there even were people who wanted to buy something, then there would be no need for a salesperson, right?
Nobody BUYS insurance; it HAS TO BE SOLD. Everyone knows that. And nobody (in their “right” mind) questions that because it’s so universally true.
All buyers are liars. Prospects never tell you the truth. Clients ALWAYS keep you from knowing what they can afford.
If there are no objections, then you’re obviously not working hard enough. You can’t afford to leave money on the table.
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