Author: Carl Ingalls

Administrator for High Probability Selling Blog

Call Reluctance — A Live Demonstration by Jedediah Thomas

This HPS Community Forum will be a little different.

Many people experience some form of reluctance when it comes to making sales calls.  If that’s true for you, we invite you to join us.

Forum member Jedediah Thomas has offered to work with volunteers during the meeting using an approach he has been developing to help people move past those kinds of mental blocks.

If you choose to participate in this way, you’ll experience the process firsthand.  If not, you’re welcome to observe and decide for yourself what you think.

The conversation will take place live in our Skool community.  Anyone who wants to participate in the demonstration will need to have their camera turned on.

The following is from Jedediah:

Hi Everyone, Jedediah here.

For the last 3.5 years I’ve worked as a mindset coach, helping dozens of people overcome deep set mental blocks and emotional triggers.

I can potentially do the same for you.

If you volunteer to work with me in this session, you’ll have the opportunity to work with me one-on-one, in front of the group, on a real challenge you’re experiencing around call reluctance.

I won’t be using any hypnosis or energy work, just talking and asking questions.

We’ll be working on very surface level stuff like the actions of calling, so no need to dig up childhood wounds.

An example of something we might address: “When I think about calling this prospect, I worry what they’ll think of me or I feel like they’ll reject me.”

You don’t have to volunteer to attend, but if you are considering volunteering please RSVP so we can manage our time.

It may be that there’s only enough time to get to one shift per person, which may not fully resolve the call reluctance issue, but it may give you a leg up and will at least show you what this work can do.

If you’re not sure about volunteering until you see it in action, that’s fine too, just go ahead and RSVP as being a potential volunteer. If you plan on attending without volunteering no RSVP is needed.  

As far as preparation, be clear on what thoughts and emotions you’re running into when you start thinking about calling prospects. And please have your camera on so I can see your body language.

Also, I recommend you block off the rest of the day and not make big decisions or drive or anything because any shifts done can potentially cause fatigue or disorientation in some cases, lasting until a good night’s sleep.

Feel free to reply back ahead of time if you have any questions about the process, so you can be sure whether you want to volunteer or not.

Looking forward to potentially working together

Jedediah

Date:  Friday 28 August 2026
Time:  10 AM (USA Eastern Time)
Where:  Skool
Link:  https://www.skool.com/live/lzj8PMqFYVz

If you’re not already a member of our HPS Skool Community, you’ll need to create a free account there before joining us.  To create an account and join our community, go to https://www.skool.com/sales-training-9609/about and then click on the button that says JOIN GROUP. 

Using HPS in the World of SaaS – HPS Forum Conversation on Fri 14 Aug 2026

This will be an interactive discussion on how to use High Probability Sales principles when selling software as a service (SaaS).  We want to hear from you. 

Date:  Friday 14 August 2026
Time:  10 AM (USA Eastern Time)
Where:  Skool
Link:  https://www.skool.com/live/lzj8PMqFYVz

If you’re not already a member of our HPS Skool Community, you’ll need to create a free account there before joining us.  To create an account and join our community, go to https://www.skool.com/sales-training-9609/about and then click on the button that says JOIN GROUP. 

High Probability Selling Is Not a Performance

Some very wise people have expressed a similar insight.

“The Tao that can be named is not the Tao.”
“The map is not the territory.”
“This is not a pipe.”

We can talk about High Probability Selling.
We can describe patterns in what successful practitioners tend to do.
We can explain the principles that underlie it.

However, those are all peripheral to High Probability Selling.

The heart of High Probability Selling is more about being than about performing.

What Do I Say When They Say _

Ok.

That’s the answer.

You say, “Ok.”

It’s about Acceptance, which is one of the Fundamental Principles of High Probability Selling.

We accept what the other person says or does, and we do not try to change them.

Saying “Ok” reminds us to be accepting before we proceed with any other response. It gives us time to remember who we want to be instead of following old habits.

When we say, “Ok,” we accept reality as it is. Only then can we decide what to do next.

Comparing HPS with Popular Sales Systems

You may have experience with sales approaches such as:

  • SPIN Selling
  • The Challenger Sale
  • Sandler Selling
  • MEDDIC / MEDDPICC
  • Solution Selling

Each offers its own structure, language, and way of thinking about selling. 

However, they all have one thing in common.  They all rely on managing the conversation to make the sale happen.

That’s where High Probability Selling stands apart.

We will talk about how HPS differs from other sales systems in this week’s Forum. 

We especially want to hear about your own experiences:

  • What have you used?
  • What have you noticed?
  • What is different?
  • What does that mean to you?

Topic:  Comparing HPS with Popular Sales Systems
Date:  Friday 8 May 2026
Time:  10:00 AM (USA Eastern Time)
Cost:  Your name and email.  No charge.

The video recording of this conversation is available here for $25 USD.  Transcript and chat are included.

Should vs Could:  A Small Language Shift That Changed My Consulting Career

I’ve been working as a technical consultant to the paper industry for several decades.

Clients hired me because they saw me as a subject matter expert. They would often ask some version of:

“What should we do?”

And I usually answered exactly as they asked.

I told them what I thought they should do.

At the time, that felt completely appropriate. They were paying for expertise, and I believed expertise meant providing the answer.

But there was a problem.

On a very small number of occasions, clients chose not to follow my recommendations. It didn’t happen often, but when it did, I paid close attention. I’ve always had a strong desire to improve what I do, and I wanted to understand why that happened.

Eventually, I realized the issue wasn’t the client.

And it wasn’t the question they were asking.

The issue was that I had long been in the habit of telling people what they should do. Consulting simply gave that habit a professional setting.

Then I was exposed to a very different way of communicating through High Probability Selling.

One idea stood out immediately:

Offer choices. Don’t create pressure. Pressure creates resistance.

That led me to make one very small but very meaningful shift.

Instead of telling clients what they should do, I began laying out several things they could do.

I provided my opinions of the likely outcomes of each option as clearly as I could, based upon my own experience and judgment. I avoided expressing any preference for one option over another.

And then I asked:

“What do you want to do?”

That changed everything.

The client remained responsible for their decision.

I remained responsible for providing clear expertise and honest information.

Neither of us needed to control the other.

That shift from should to could made my consulting work better.

It also aligned perfectly with what both my clients and I actually wanted:

Clear technical advice.
Clear choices.
No unnecessary pressure.

Sometimes the most meaningful changes are remarkably small.

Sometimes it’s just one word.

Earlier today, Paul Bunn shared a short video from Daniel Pink that explores the difference between should and could in a way I found both clear and compelling.

I had already experienced the practical impact of that language shift in my consulting work, but his explanation helped me understand the distinction even more clearly.

If this idea resonates with you, the video is well worth watching.
“One Word that Will Change Your Life” by Daniel Pink

What Makes High Probability Selling So Uncomfortable?

What makes (or has made) HPS uncomfortable for you?

When you encountered High Probability Selling — learning about it or trying to apply it — what did you experience?  Did anything make you uncomfortable?  What was that?  Why did it make you feel that way?

We talked about it in a live forum meeting on Zoom.

Topic:  What Makes HPS So Uncomfortable?
Date:  Thursday 26 March 2026
Time:  1:00 PM (USA Eastern Time)
Cost:  Your name and email. No charge to attend.

The meeting was recorded.  The video recording is now available for sale on our website (here) for $25 USD.

Open vs. Closed Questions – What They Do to a Conversation

An open question is one that gives the other person the greatest latitude in how they can respond.  It leaves room for choice.  A closed question narrows that latitude and places more control with the person asking the question.  In selling, the difference matters because questions do more than gather information — they shape the emotional and decision-making space of the conversation.

A simple rule is to treat any yes/no question as a closed question, and any question that begins with how, why, what, or when as an open question. That’s ok as a general guideline, but there are very important exceptions.

For instance, “Is that something you want?” sounds like a closed question, but it leaves the other person entirely free.  There is no implied preference, no momentum to maintain, and no penalty for saying no.

“How’s that working for you?” sounds like an open question, but is most commonly used as criticism, pretending to be an invitation to reflect.  While many answers are technically possible, only a few feel safe.  In that way, the question reduces choice even as it appears to expand it.

What matters is not whether a question is technically open or closed, but where control resides.  Some questions give control to the other person.  Others quietly pull it back to the person asking.

So why does that happen?  Why do we sometimes try to narrow the other person’s choices, even when we know that pressure creates resistance and makes conversations feel unsafe?  In many cases, it has more to do with habit than with intent.

Restrictive questions often feel efficient.  They can seem like a way to move the conversation along or arrive at an answer more quickly.  The cost is that they also reduce the other person’s freedom to respond — sometimes without our realizing it.  We may also end up getting answers to the wrong questions, while a more open question could have led to something deeper and more useful.

Once you begin to notice what questions do to a conversation, you start hearing them differently — including your own.  The distinction becomes less about choosing the right kind of question and more about noticing where control is showing up.  Over time, that awareness changes the conversation on its own.  Questions begin to open because there is less need to manage the answer.  And the conversation becomes a place where clearer, more useful answers can emerge — naturally, and without force.

We explored this subject more deeply Thursday 22 January 2026 in a live and interactive conversation on Zoom.  The video recording of that conversation is available here ($25 USD).

We Are Suckers for the Appearance of Simplicity

Modern systems promise simplicity everywhere we look.
Fewer buttons.  Fewer choices.  Smarter defaults.
“Don’t worry — we know what you want.”

And we fall for it.

But what’s often called simple isn’t simpler.
It’s just less visible.

Instead of asking, systems decide.
Things happen that we didn’t choose.
Nothing feels complicated — until something goes wrong.

Then the work returns to us and becomes our problem:
figuring out what happened
and how to stop it from happening again.

The complexity never disappeared.
It just moved out of sight.

We accept this because we’re busy.  Overloaded.
Anything that promises to “just work” feels like relief.

But there’s a cost.

When understanding is removed along with effort,
control fades.
predictability fades.
trust fades.

Real simplicity doesn’t hide decisions.
It makes them clear.

Once you see the difference,
you see it everywhere.

Discussion: Am I Doing It Right? – Thu 4 Dec 2025

High Probability Selling Community Forum meeting on Zoom. Everyone who has an interest in High Probability Selling is invited.

Topic:  Am I Doing It Right?
Date:  Thursday 4 December 2025
Times:  9:30 AM and again at 6:30 PM (USA Eastern Time)
Cost:  No charge. No registration required.
Zoom Meeting:  Click on THIS LINK to join the meeting at the scheduled time. 
Meeting ID = 834 3679 3215
Passcode = 751935

Recording:  Both meetings will be recorded.  A link to both recordings will be emailed to everyone who attends either meeting, but only if we have your name and email address.