We Take No for an Answer – No Matter How They Say It

In High Probability Selling, we always accept “no” for an answer, and we move on.

Prospects say “no” in different ways, depending on circumstances.

For instance, suppose we are on a live phone conversation with a prospect, we present our offer, and ask “Is that something you want.”  They might answer our question with a simple “no.”  In that case, we say, “Ok.  Bye-now.”  Then we pause a few seconds in silence, and hang up.

Or, they might say something like, “I’m busy.”  As far as we are concerned that is exactly the same as a “no.”  We do not ask when is a better time for us to call again.  We say, “Ok.  Bye-now” and we hang up.

And if they say anything that sounds remotely like an objection, that’s the same as a literal “no.”

When we leave a message (by voicemail, text, or email), a lot of people say no by deleting the message without responding to it in any way.  If we do not receive any response from the prospect, we also treat that as a no.  We might say ok and bye-now in our own heads.  But everything after that is the same.  We record what offer was given, and we call them back in 3 to 6 weeks with a different offer, just as if they had said no to our offer in person.

There is an exception to the above.  When we leave a message with a gatekeeper, and we are following the HPS special protocol for Working With The Gatekeeper, we may call that same gatekeeper in a few days to ask about the response.

If a prospect does not say “Yes” to our question, “Is that something you want,” we have found that it is better to exit quickly and come back to the same individual 3-6 weeks later with a different offer, than it is to spend any more time at all talking with that prospect.  That is why Jacques Werth advised students to err on the side of disqualifying a prospect.  You are far more likely to get another chance at discovering a sale by coming back later.

Most of the time, no only means not now.

Happy Prospecting,
Carl Ingalls


Comments and questions are very welcome and appreciated.

We Take No for an Answer – No Matter How They Say It

High Probability Selling Was Discovered, Not Made

Jacques Werth discovered what he later called High Probability Selling (HPS) by observing and documenting what hundreds of highly successful salespeople were doing.  He invented the name, and he invented a way of talking about it and teaching it, and he wrote the book, but he did not invent the method of selling.  It was already out there.  That’s where he found it.

I asked him why he used the phrase “Re-invents the Selling Process” on the cover of his book.  He told me that, at the time, lots of successful authors were saying things like that on their books and it seemed like a good idea.

In those days, Jacques tended to use conventional methods in marketing.  In later years, he moved toward marketing methods that were more compatible with his preferred selling method.

One of the things that distinguishes HPS from other selling methods is that it’s all about discovery—all the way through the entire process.  Discovering a sale, not making one happen.

I see High Probability Selling itself as something to be discovered, not controlled.  That is the way I prefer to work with it.  Learning, talking, and teaching.


Comments and questions are very welcome and appreciated.

 

High Probability Selling Was Discovered, Not Made

A Student’s Experience With the Trust and Respect Inquiry

The following is my favorite testimonial about High Probability Selling.

This was by far the best workshop that I have ever attended.  I learned more practical concepts in this workshop than all the others combined.  I was very impressed with the amount of knowledge that was shared during the class.  I received so much more from the class than I had originally anticipated.  I was so pleased to learn that Jacques was teaching the class, there’s no better way to learn than getting it straight from the source.  The thing that was most astounding to me was how much the skills from High Probability Selling can be used in everyday life to better the interactions one can have with the people in their lives.  That was truly more than I had expected.  Since the closure of our workshop I was able to do a trust and respect inquiry on my Father (the man of few words).  In the 45 minute ride to the airport, my dad talked almost the entire way and I was truly amazed at how much I learned about my father that I never knew.  About the relationship he had with his father and how he was terrified of him.  It gave me so much insight into my father and why he behaves the way he does.  I gained a huge amount of respect for him and a deep love and appreciation for all that he has done for me.  Had I not learn how to do this, I would have never known what makes my father tick.  Thank you so much for teaching me this skill that will help my business and my life.  I will forever be grateful.  You have truly left footprints on my heart that will no doubt allow me to leave footprints on other’s hearts.  I hope all the talking I’ve done and will continue to do about your workshop sends you some new business!  Thanks again for everything!

~ J. Cano, Empowered Financial Services

The above review is my favorite from a set of 26 testimonials that Jacques Werth had collected from students between about 1990 and 2006.  You can read all of these testimonials on the main HPS website at www.HighProbSell.com/testimonials/


Comments and questions are very welcome and appreciated.

 

A Student’s Experience With the Trust and Respect Inquiry

Recording of Video Interview of Carl Ingalls Now Available on You Tube

This interview about High Probability Selling was conducted on Wed 13 May 2020 by Julius Csizmazia via Zoom video chat.  The video recording is now available for viewing on You Tube at no charge.  Click below.

For more info about this interview, see the announcement on this blog.

Recording of Video Interview of Carl Ingalls Now Available on You Tube

To Push or Not to Push

If someone is about to step in front of a speeding car, then pushing them out of the way will probably have a better outcome than asking them if they want to reconsider.

Asking a friend if they want to go for a walk with you will probably be more effective than saying, “You need to lose weight.”

People push each other all the time.  It’s simple and doesn’t take much thought.  Almost instinctive.  Sometimes, it’s the only thing that will work.  Most of the time though, there are alternatives to pushing, and sometimes those alternatives lead to better outcomes.

Pushing an object increases the probability that the object will move in the direction we are pushing it.  We can count on that.  It works on cattle and sheep as well.  However, people are a lot more complicated.  They don’t like being treated as a thing, or herded like sheep.  They often resist being pushed, even by very subtle methods.  The human paradox is that pushing can decrease the probability that a person will do what we are trying to get them to do.  That can be very frustrating.

To push, or not to push.  The only way to know what works better in any given situation, is to have a very clear picture in mind of what a good outcome looks like, and then to think realistically about how our actions will affect the probability of that kind of outcome.  Not just what we think should happen, but what the odds really are when we think about it.

To Push or Not to Push

Interview of Carl Ingalls About High Probability Selling, Hosted by Julius Csizmazia, Wed 13 May 2020

Julius Csizmazia will interview Carl Ingalls (that’s me) on Wednesday 13 May 2020, from 3pm to 4pm Eastern Time USA.  The topic will be High Probability Selling.  Questions from the audience will also be accepted.

The interview will be conducted via Zoom Video Conferencing.  Participants are welcome to join the meeting live, no charge, up to a maximum of 100 individuals.  For instructions, see below.

The meeting will be recorded (audio and video), and the recording will be offered for sale later.  The price for the recording will be somewhere between $5 and $10 (free).

Instructions.  If you want to join this video conference live, please send an email with your request to Ingalls@HighProbSell.com, and I will reply with detailed instructions for signing onto the Zoom meeting.  The price to attend is zero.  Questions in advance are also welcome.


About Julius Csizmazia.  His LinkedIn profile at www.linkedin.com/in/juliuscsizmazia/ gives an overall description.  His team building business at www.JuliusTeamBuilding.com describes his relationship with High Probability Selling more deeply.


Note added on Wed 24 June 2020 by Carl Ingalls.  The recording of this interview is now available for viewing on You Tube.  See www.youtube.com/watch?v=ugB5p0XDpGQ (no charge, no registration).

Interview of Carl Ingalls About High Probability Selling, Hosted by Julius Csizmazia, Wed 13 May 2020

What’s Important Now

So many things seemed so very important a few months ago.  Today, most of them are forgotten.

In a world where survival is threatened, is High Probability Selling still relevant?  Is it worth it for me to continue to teach this, and will it help in any way?

People still push each other around a lot, and when pushing doesn’t get them what they want, they push harder.  They’re too desperate to try anything new, and especially anything so radical and unknown as HPS.

The current COVID-19 crisis has brought out the extremes in people.  All around me, I see bravery and generosity, by individuals and by corporations.  The opposite extreme exists, but is not as important these days.

So what can I do?

One answer is to reach out to people, see how they are doing.  It’s a little thing, but it may help us all in this time of social isolation.  I’ve been practicing with the video conferencing platform Zoom.us, so that I can connect with more people at once.

You are all welcome to my next video chat, which will be this Friday, 17 April, at 3pm Eastern USA Time (same as New York).  If you want to join me, please email me at Ingalls@HighProbSell.com so that I can send you information on how to connect.  No charge.

Keep safe, and keep well.

Comments are welcome and appreciated.

What’s Important Now

Giving and Selling Advice, a New Mini-Course on the Basics of High Probability Consulting

The next HPS Mini-Course will be a short webinar session, on Giving and Selling Advice (an Intro to High Probability Consulting), on Thu 27 February 2020 at 10am USA Eastern Time.  39 minutes for $39

This mini-course covers the basics on how to apply the ideas of High Probability Selling when giving or selling advice.  The focus is on the delivery of the advice, after any agreements of sale have already been made.

Whenever someone resists being persuaded to follow your advice, the methods of High Probability Consulting may work better.

The webinar will be led by Carl Ingalls in real-time (live).  Content is mostly audio (speaking), with some video (text, graphics).  The session will be recorded (audio and video), and the recording will be made available to everyone who signs up (and pays for) the mini-course.  The recording of this session may also be offered for sale later.

The webinar platform is GoToMeeting.  If you have not already downloaded and installed the GoToMeeting app on your computer or mobile phone, I strongly recommend that you do so at least 30 minutes before the webinar begins.  And even if you have the app and are already familiar with GoToMeeting, please note that they have changed their user interface quite significantly recently, so I recommend joining the meeting 5 or 10 minutes early.

The price is $39 USD per person.  However, I have 10 introductory discount coupons to give away, each $5 off.  If you want one, please contact me (Carl Ingalls) by phone at +1 610-627-9030 or by email at info@HighProbSell.com (before you click on the purchase link below).

If you want to purchase this HPS Mini-Course on Giving and Selling Advice now, you may use this link:  https://high-probability-selling.myshopify.com/cart/31226966409276:1?channel=buy_button

Future HPS Mini-Courses will appear on the HPS Training Calendar at least a week before they are scheduled.


More info can be found at www.HighProbSell.com/workshops/index.html#minicourses

Giving and Selling Advice, a New Mini-Course on the Basics of High Probability Consulting

What do High Probability Selling and improvisational acting have in common?

Some of the guidelines for improvisational acting have much in common and harmonize well with the mindset of High Probability Selling (HPS) and also with the Trust and Respect Inquiry (TRI) process.

I invite you to watch this TED video about improv:  Be An Improvisor.  Change the World.

Here’s a summary of the rules of improvisation found in the video, and how each relates to High Probability Selling:

1. MAKE A CONNECTION — We focus on who the other person is, what kind of decisions they make, how things usually turn out for them, and how they react.  The conversation is about the other person.  It’s not about us.

2. LISTEN — We listen in a special way because we want to learn and find out things.  The less we talk, the better we listen.  We listen to the other person without influencing them, so we get the deeper truth, and not just what we hope to hear.  We listen to what they say, we remember it, and we ask about that.

3. SAY “YES, And…” — It’s about accepting what another person just said or did, and then adding to it.  In HPS, we do this without agreeing or disagreeing.  We usually convey this by what we do, without saying those words out loud.  We add to the conversation by asking the other person to tell us more about what they said.

When we do use words to convey our acceptance without judgment, we might say something like, “Yes, I see” or “I hear you” or “OK”.  We keep our tone of voice neutral and calm.

As a magician who performs magic shows and magic entertainment, I avoid contradicting or arguing with an audience volunteer who I have invited onstage.

Instead, just like a jazz musician, I feed off the spectator’s and audience’s energy and steer it in a positive direction to enhance their magic experience.

4. BE IN THE MOMENT — The time to find out why a sale is not going to go through is early in the sales process, when you’re meeting with the prospect, rather than after having invested valuable time with someone who clearly disqualified themselves up front.  Discover it in the moment.  Then, you have the time to respond, and to choose your best course of action, whether to continue or walk away.

5. STAY FLEXIBLE — This is especially important with Inbound Prospecting.  Adapt to what the other person says and does.  In the TRI process, we give control of the topic to the other person, and we follow their lead.

6. AVOID PRECONCEIVED IDEAS — Never make any assumptions or presumptions or guesses about the other person’s background or story.  No leading questions, no questions that suggest an answer.  Ask open questions rather than closed ones, whenever possible.

7. RESPECT OTHER PEOPLE’S CHOICES — When a prospect says “no” to our prospecting offer, we respect that by saying, “Ok.  Bye now.”  And then we go away.  Accept without judging.  No comments.  No reactions.  Keep calm and neutral.  Don’t act surprised.

8. LISTEN TO YOUR INNER VOICE — It’s ok if you don’t feel like disqualifying a prospect just because of how they answered your disqualification questions.  Ask the questions anyway, and do what you feel like doing, without deciding in advance what the answers must be.  Gain the experience, and your inner voice will update itself.

9. FOLLOW YOUR INTUITION — Use it or lose it.  Practice will improve the accuracy of your intuition.  We rarely have enough data to make a purely logical decision.

Learning to listen, connect, and play like an improviser can make all the difference, whether selling a product, an idea, or ourselves.

 

What do High Probability Selling and improvisational acting have in common?

Intro to Prospecting, a New Mini-Course in HPS

The next HPS Mini-Course will be a short webinar session, an Intro to Prospecting with High Probability Selling, on Fri 7 February 2020 at 1pm USA Eastern Time.  39 minutes for $39

This mini-course covers the basic principles and guidelines of the High Probability Prospecting method.  How it differs from other selling methods and why.

Individual prospecting offers will not be reviewed in this mini-course.  There are other options available for that.

The webinar will be led by Carl Ingalls in real-time (live).  Content is mostly audio (speaking), with some video (text, graphics).  The session will be recorded (audio and video, plus transcript), and the recording will be made available to everyone who signs up (and pays for) the mini-course.  The recording of this session may also be offered for sale later.

The webinar platform is GoToMeeting.  If you have not already downloaded and installed the GoToMeeting app on your computer or mobile phone, I strongly recommend that you do so at least 30 minutes before the webinar begins.  And even if you have the app and are already familiar with GoToMeeting, please note that they have changed their user interface quite significantly recently, so I recommend joining the meeting 5 or 10 minutes early.

The price is $39 USD per person.  However, I have 10 introductory discount coupons to give away, each $5 off.  If you want one, please contact me (Carl Ingalls) by phone at +1 610-627-9030 or by email at info@HighProbSell.com (before you click on the purchase link below).

If you want to purchase this HPS Mini-Course on the Intro to Prospecting with High Probability Selling now, you may use this link:  https://high-probability-selling.myshopify.com/cart/31226966409276:1?channel=buy_button

Future HPS Mini-Courses will appear on the HPS Training Calendar at least a week before they are scheduled.


More info can be found at www.HighProbSell.com/workshops/index.html#minicourses

Intro to Prospecting, a New Mini-Course in HPS