High Probability Selling for Introverts: Leveraging Unique Strengths

In the world of sales, extroverts often take center stage with their charisma and apparent networking prowess. However, introverts possess distinct strengths that can lead to effective selling with High Probability Selling.

Embracing Introverted Strengths

Introverts excel in active listening, empathy, and building deep connections. These qualities are foundational in High Probability Selling, focusing on understanding a customer, without interference from the salesperson’s own opinions and desires.

Active Listening: Introverts prioritize understanding over talking, which provides insights into customer values.

Relationship Building: Preferring meaningful one-on-one interactions, introverts foster authentic relationships of mutual respect, beyond simply building rapport.

Embracing Success

High Probability Selling empowers introverts to succeed by embracing their innate strengths of empathy, listening, and connecting with people. By leveraging these qualities, introverts redefine success in sales, creating genuine connections that lead to sustainable business growth.

Recognizing and valuing diverse strengths, including those of introverts, reshapes sales approaches to prioritize authenticity and empathy, ensuring long-term success in evolving market landscapes.

Debunking Common Beliefs about Self and Sales

Sales Cycle Duration

  • Myth: “I have a fixed six-month sales cycle.”
  • Reality: Believing in a fixed sales cycle can create self-fulfilling prophecies where sales approaches are molded around this belief, often resulting in wasted time and effort. Sales cycles can be much shorter if one focuses on engaging with ready-to-buy prospects.

Predicting Client Behavior

  • Myth: “I can predict how prospects will respond based on past experiences.”
  • Reality: Preconceived notions and biases can hinder genuine interactions. Each prospect is unique, and stereotyping them can lead to missed opportunities.

Selling vs. Buying

  • Myth: “Nobody buys insurance; it has to be sold.”
  • Reality: People do buy insurance and other products when they see the value. Creating a buying environment rather than a selling one can lead to more genuine and lasting customer relationships.

Sales Tactics and Terminology

  • Myth: “I must use titles like ‘consultant’ instead of ‘salesperson’ to build trust.”
  • Reality: Authenticity matters more than titles. Being clear, open, and transparent about your intention builds trust more effectively than trying to mask it with different terms.

Approach to Sales Conversations

    • Myth: “Selling is bad; I must not appear to be selling.”
    • Reality: Sales doesn’t have to be manipulative. Honest, respectful conversations where wants and needs are matched with solutions can be beneficial to both parties.

    Customer Appreciation

    • Myth: “My customers don’t appreciate me unless I add value in every interaction.”
    • Reality: Adding value is important, but it should be genuine and relevant. Building trust through consistent, honest interactions can be more valuable than forcing perceived value.

    Letting Go

    • Myth: “Once I have a prospect on the phone, I can’t let them go.”
    • Reality: Respecting a prospect’s time and knowing when to end a call can leave a better impression and increase the chances of future engagement.

    Educational Sales

      • Myth: “I must educate my prospects into buying.”
      • Reality: Prospects who are already informed are more likely to buy. Focusing on understanding their wants and needs rather than just educating can lead to more successful sales.

      Client’s Price Sensitivity

        • Myth: “My customers only buy at the lowest price.”
        • Reality: While price is a factor, it’s not the only one. Value, trust, and service quality play significant roles in purchasing decisions.

        Universal Approach

          • Myth: “I need to apply the entire High Probability Selling (HPS) process to be effective.”
          • Reality: Flexibility within the HPS process allows for adaptation to different contexts and needs, making it more practical and effective.

          Respectful Communication

            • Myth: “Being direct can come off as offensive.”
            • Reality: Being direct, open, and transparent, when done respectfully, can lead to clearer and more productive conversations. It’s about being clear and concise without being rude or overbearing.

              Key Takeaways

              • Challenge and reevaluate commonly held beliefs about sales and client interactions.
              • Adapt and personalize sales approaches to meet the unique needs of each prospect.
              • Focus on creating genuine, respectful, and value-driven interactions.
              • Be flexible and willing to let go of rigid sales processes when necessary.
              • Embrace the power of listening and understanding over merely selling.

              Homework Challenge: Try to go 24 hours without giving any unsolicited opinions. This practice helps in improving active listening and reducing the tendency to dominate conversations with personal biases or unsolicited advice.

              Overview of High Probability Selling: 3 New Courses for Consultants, Financial Services, and Real Estate

              Who the Overview Courses Are For
              • People who want to have more understanding of the overall framework and context of HPS (and how it’s taught), before they make a larger investment of their time, energy, and money for more comprehensive training courses.
              • People who want to understand where the pieces fit, before they start taking individual courses a la carte.
              • People who have taken some courses, and want to see how what they already understand fits into the complete process.
              • People who have read the book, but want to see how HPS is applied in today’s Real World.
              What the Overview Courses Provide
              • What has changed in HPS over the years
              • Selling Strategy:  The meaning and purpose of selling
              • The Mindset:  Beliefs, habits, attitudes, language
              • Overview of a complete HPS sale, with an outline of the overall HPS process
              • The HPS Way of Being
              How We Teach These Courses
              • Three interactive sessions with live instructors on Zoom
              • Sessions are 60 minutes each, once per week, same time and day of week
              • Exercises to do between sessions
              • Video recordings of sessions are also provided
              • Taught by Paul Bunn and/or Carl Ingalls, with over 50 years of combined experience with HPS, in both sales and non-sales roles
              Sign Up and Purchase — $297 USD per person

              Links to purchase this Overview Course, for specific types of business. Note that times are in USA Eastern Time (same as New York City):

              If you have any questions, please Contact Us, or call +1 610-627-9030, or email Info@HighProbSell.com

              Refresher in High Probability Selling – New Course Starts 2024-03-22

              Who It’s For:
              People who have completed at least some training in HPS, and
              – haven’t done it for a while and feel a bit rusty
              – want to know how HPS has changed
              – have never fully implemented it before
              – want to see if they can apply it to their business now
              – have used HPS but want to know if they are still using it right

              What You Get:
              – What has changed in HPS over the years.
              – An outline and review of the overall HPS process.
              – How to restart HPS in your business.
              – How to troubleshoot HPS when it’s not working.
              – How to keep the HPS mindset in a non-HPS world.
              – Ways to improve HPS and make it work even better in your business.
              – Discovering the path to the HPS Way of Being.

              How We Teach:
              – Interactive sessions with live instructors on Zoom. Each session is recorded.
              – Exercises to do between sessions.
              – Taught by Paul Bunn and Carl Ingalls (with over 50 years
              of combined experience with HPS, in both sales and non-sales roles).

              Schedule
              Starts Friday 22 March 2024 at 1:30pm USA Eastern Time.  Two or three sessions (2 hours each), spaced one week apart, same day of week, same time.  Also see the HPS Calendar for updates. 

              Price:  $397 USD per person
              Purchaseclick here

              If you have any questions, please Contact Us, or call +1 610-627-9030, or email Info@HighProbSell.com

              What a High Probability Appointment Looks Like

              by Jacques Werth, edited by Carl Ingalls and Paul Bunn

              We were in a large meeting room in a nice hotel, in a suburb of Seattle.  Twelve successful Realtors were attending a Real Estate Sales Mastery workshop.  They were an unusually well-dressed group for a two-day offsite workshop.

              At our request, one of the participants had borrowed a sample front door and door frame from a builder.  It was in the front of the meeting room and it was braced to stand on its own.  The outside of the door was to the right, and to the left of the inside of the door we had a kitchen table and some chairs.  Those were the props that we needed to begin the first exercise.

              One of the workshop participants was asked to role-play how she approaches a visit to a homeowner who wants to sell his house.  The instructor played the part of the home owner.

              The first Realtor walked up to the outside of the door and knocked.  The instructor opened the door and said “Hello.”

              The Realtor flashed a big smile, held out her hand and said, very cordially, “Mr. Smith, it is so good to meet you.  I am Pam Jackson with XYZ Real Estate.  How are you today?”

              The instructor invited her in and offered her a chair in the “kitchen.”

              “Your home is very lovely.  I really like what you did with the kitchen,” said Pam with delight, while looking all around.

              The instructor stopped the role-play at that point and thanked Pam.  He asked her to switch roles.  She would now play the homeowner and the next participant would play the Realtor.  That participant was even more effusive than Pam.  Each successive Realtor tried to out-do those what went before them in their attempts to impress the prospect with their enthusiasm, charm and likeability.

              During those role-plays, the other Realtors watched intently and remained very quiet.  Several preened their clothing and hair before it was their turn.

              For the second part of the role-play the instructor played the part of the Realtor, with Pam playing the homeowner.  The instructor knocked on the door, and the Pam opened it.  “Yes?’ she said.

              “I’m Joe Instructor with HPS Realty.  Are you Pam Jackson?”

              “Yes, I am,” she said, reaching to shake his hand.  “Come in. I suppose you want to look over the house.”

              “Before we do that, we need to get to know each other and determine whether we have a mutually acceptable basis for doing business.”

              Homeowner: “Okay, we can sit in the kitchen, here.”

              Realtor: “When we spoke on the phone we agreed this meeting would take about ninety minutes of uninterrupted time.  Have you arranged for that?”

              Homeowner: “Yes, I turned off my phone and put the dog out in the back yard.”

              Realtor: “We agreed that the purpose of our meeting is to determine whether we have a mutually acceptable basis for selling your home.  Is that your intention?”

              Homeowner: “Yes.”

              Realtor: “And, we agreed that if we can meet your conditions of satisfaction for the sale of your home, we will make a decision about that today.  Is that still your intention?”

              Homeowner: “Yes, it is.”

              The instructor thanked Pam and asked her to rejoin the rest of the group.  Then, he asked the entire group, “What did you notice about the way I just approached Pam, the prospect?”

              They called out their answers:

              “You were very straight-forward.”
              “You were dignified.”
              “You were very relaxed.”
              “You were authentic.”
              “You were not acting.”
              “You were in control.”
              “You asked for and got commitments.”

              Pam then capped it off with, “I felt privileged to be your prospect.  I felt respected, and I felt respect for you.”


              The above article was copied from an earlier post on this blog, and recently edited by Paul Bunn and Carl Ingalls. 

              Conversation with a Long-Time Student of High Probability Selling

              Jon Williams reached out to me (Carl Ingalls) on Facebook Messenger recently, with some questions about the application of High Probability Selling.

              I am posting our conversation here with some minor editing, and with permission.


              Jon: I wanted to ask you, have you ever been asked about how to sell things that aren’t as straight forward as a product per se. Like artwork, finery items like collectors stuff?

              I heard this marketers take on it and she said you’ve got to look at what people want and “need” (manufacturing the need because they want it) and focus on that rather than the literal item.

              I was thinking more about this and thought that’s definitely a decent start and to think about what the collectors want, the history of the piece or collection (as a feature), etc.


              Carl: I have had several people inquire about selling something that is not very tangible. HPS is one example of that. I have also been asked about selling art. Collector’s items are fairly straightforward, at least on the selling side.


              Jon: Gotcha. Ya I’ve always wondered about strictly non-tangibles.


              Carl: If you see your job as one of influencing someone to buy, then HPS methods do not apply at all. The marketer person you mentioned recommends methods that are consistent with that. You really have to pick one or the other. If you flip back and forth [between influencing and not influencing], people won’t trust you.


              Jon: Influencing or making offers based on what they want?

              That’s what I took away from it as far as what they were saying. She walked us through her thinking and then applied that back to her style which I agree can certainly come off more “getting this or that” vs discovery.


              Carl: If the people you reach out to do not have a clear picture of what you are offering, you need to have a good marketing system in place that educates them. Don’t try to do it during one-on-one selling. Extremely inefficient and unrewarding.


              Jon: From what I’ve learned in marketing, it applies to everything, which is, truly know your audience and get real feedback from their perspective, the good the bad and the ugly.

              If we have this and don’t add to it, then it becomes easier to “make offers”. 🙂


              Carl: Making an offer based on what the other person wants is perfectly consistent with HPS, and is not an attempt to influence their decision.


              Jon: Ya that’s what I focus on too 🙂

              We’ve all had about enough of the internet hype and all this pressure to sell based on their need.

              What about empathy?

              Do we actually care about the human on the other side? Or are they just another dollar with a pulse?

              That’s been made clear via high prob and very verrry few sales training does this well or at all. (Marketing training seems even worse because it’s so removed from the one-on-one)


              Carl: In classical HPS outbound prospecting (one-on-one), we normally do not know what the individual wants. We may know something about the probabilities, based on the demographics used when purchasing a list. And the most efficient way of finding out if they want what we are offering is simply to ask them directly. The more specific [the offer], the better.

              With the newer HPS Inbound prospecting (where a prospect reaches out to the salesperson), we listen to find out what they want, and we decide if we want to offer something based on that.


              Jon: I do hear the better ones saying this method where they do interviews with their existing customers or clients, not to sell them anything new but to gain understanding from their perspective.

              I do love this method of listening to them and going from there.

              I think you shared this once, that when we start listening we may find they have a completely different want than what we thought at the beginning.


              Carl: Some people call that marketing research [doing interviews with existing customers].

              Most of the time, I’m a one-man operation. This means that I fill all of the roles. Market research, marketing, prospecting, selling, fulfillment, office manager, etc.


              Jon: How have you found that to work for you?

              I’m the same way. I only want about 2-3 really solid clients when I get there.


              Carl: I like the variety of roles, a lot. However, going solo is a very lonely job, and I do have trouble with that.


              Jon: Ya, I’ve heard that too, about the lonely part. For now I don’t mind but it may change later, lol


              Carl: I’m looking forward to doing a 3-session workshop on the TRI, starting this Tuesday 11 Jan. That’s real connection with real people, and teaching them how to do it too. Of course, you already know about that.

              By the way, I’d like to put our conversation on the HPS Blog. May I have your permission to do that? I’ll probably use just our first names. Any thoughts?

              Probably some minor editing. I’ll send you a copy to review first.

              This is an example of one-to-many marketing that educates.


              Jon: Ya that’s perfectly acceptable with me. Thanks for asking ☺️


              Carl: You are very welcome. And I really appreciate the thoughtful conversation.


              Jon: Yes it’s helped me understand the differences too and to get clear myself.


              Questions and comments on this blog are very welcome.

              Go for No and High Probability Selling – Live Video Streaming Event Tue 28 Sep 2021 on Facebook

              Andrea Waltz and Carl Ingalls will continue our conversation about similarities and differences between these two selling systems.  Our previous conversation was on 28 June 2021, and may be viewed on You Tube.

              The conversation will be streamed live to the High Probability Selling company page on Facebook, at https://www.facebook.com/HighProbabilitySelling/.  If you choose to “like” that page, Facebook will automatically notify you of this event.

              The event is open to the public and is free (no charge).  No registration required.

              Date:  Tuesday 28 September 2021
              Time:  3pm 5pm USA Eastern Time (same as New York City)
              Link: https://www.facebook.com/HighProbabilitySelling/
              Duration:  1 hour

              Comments posted to the streaming event on Facebook will be forwarded to both presenters, and we will answer questions if we can.

              The event will be recorded, and the recording will be posted to the High Probability Selling channel on YouTube (www.youtube.com/channel/UC3jsAgiQj4qg1XqA9T_mOpw).  If you subscribe to that channel, YouTube will notify you when the recording is available.

              It may be useful to read the book, Go for No!, by Richard Fenton and Andrea Waltz, before the discussion.


              Please note the schedule change. It was 3pm and is now 5pm. Still Tue 28 Sep 2021.

              Charisma vs Passion in Selling

              Charisma is about charming people.  It is a way of influencing how someone feels about you.  It may be natural, or it may be a technique for getting approval.

              Passion (in this context) is how we feel about something we do.  Feeling passion and expressing passion are two very different things.  The first is real, and the second may be an act.  If we are not careful, our expression of passion may be interpreted as an attempt to influence how a prospect feels about what we are selling.

              Influencing how a prospect feels is one way to sell.  However, influencing a prospect is not compatible with High Probability Selling.

              We teach our students to maintain an objective, neutral, and businesslike manner when selling.  We put our passion and our energy into finding people who want what we are selling and into determining how likely the outcome will turn out the way we want it to.


              Upcoming HPS Workshops:
              Getting Personal (17 Jan 2017, $245);  Chapter 12 Explained (26 Jan 2017, $45);  Prospecting (21 Feb 2017, $1050)

              Questions from a Student of High Probability Selling (2016-09-03)

              Adam sent me an email with questions about High Probability Selling after listening to the audio recording of the August 2016 teleseminar workshop on Chapter 12 Explained

              Adam’s email appears here with his permission.  Answers from me (Carl Ingalls) are in red text (and indented).


              From: Adam
              Sent: Saturday, September 03, 2016 5:36 AM
              To: Carl Ingalls
              Subject: Re: Recording of Teleseminar Workshop “Chapter 12 Explained”

              Hello Carl,

              first, let me thank you for the seminar file; I listened to it twice and found it very informative and constructive… it was a nice surprise to hear Jacques’ voice as well!

              Here are some of my questions/queries/digressions, etc directly and indirectly connected to the seminar:

              1.while listening to Jacques recordings i couldn’t help noticing his art of talking in a very specific emotionless, almost monotonous way; do you know whether this is his natural way of talking or he developed it purposefully for business, if so how could one learn/train it?  (sometimes it is quite difficult to stay “cool” on the phone or during an appointment)

              A:  Jacques’ art of talking in a neutral manner comes fairly natural to him, but he does not always talk that way.  He does that in situations where it is important to do so.  Examples:  when prospecting or selling (non-persuasively), or when communicating with someone who has lost their temper (see Jacques’ post on Angry People).  He probably improved on it while copying very successful salespeople and also while playing poker.  It can be taught, and it can be learned, but it takes a lot of effort.  We teach these skills continuously in our sales training workshops and coaching.

              2.prospecting on the phone and the very opening; you advised to skip “hello”…hmm, business contacts in my country are quite formal and polite; skipping any kind of greetings/introduction would be considered rude…

              A:  Many of the things we train salespeople to do seem impolite and rude, not only to Austrians, but to people everywhere.  Not saying “Hello” when prospecting is just one example.  There are others.  They have all been tested in many cultures around the world, with the same results.  We tried it both ways, and we get more sales when we stop saying “Hello” in our prospecting calls.  Many of us struggle with the conflict between doing what we feel comfortable about, and doing what gets us the results we want.

              3.Trust & Respect Inquiry: in the book, Sal asks many questions while telling nothing about himself in return; i understand the purpose here, but can’t help thinking, this situation is out of balance; what if the client asks once or more “how about you?” at any time during this phase? should i tell him anything from my life or wriggle out, if so, how?

              A:  Asking personal questions, while offering nothing of oneself in return, is very much “out of balance.”  This is especially true when compared to a typical personal conversation.  When we do it this way, people tell us things about themselves that they rarely get to say to other people.  Why?  We don’t know.  It probably has something to do with the way we give control of the topic to the other person, and the way we avoid judgments (including very subtle ones).

              Occasionally, the other person will ask a question of us.  If it is a simple and direct question, we answer it as simply as we can, and then we ask our next question.  If their question  is vague and non-specific, like “how about you?” we would ask “What do you mean?” or something like that.

              It is too easy to start talking about yourself during this process.  Don’t follow any suggestion or invitation to do so.  This is about the other person, not you.  You can talk about yourself later.

              4.provided i have to break up the meeting during the COS discussion; how exactly do i do it? what do i say? do i keep an option for the future meeting? etc…

              A:  It may depend on the reason for the interruption.  If you know that you want to proceed with the sale later, the best thing to do is to make very definite plans to continue the process.  Making an appointment is much better than “keeping an option” (which is too vague). 

              i would be very grateful if you could give me your perspective…many thanks 🙂

              best regards,

              Adam


              Comments and questions (and additional answers) from our readers are welcome.

              Relationship Selling

              Would you trust someone who tried to form a relationship with you solely for the purpose of selling you something?

              Many salespeople believe that the key to getting someone to buy is to build a “relationship” first.  They are the ones who say “how are you” on a cold call.

              Saying “how are you” on a cold call is one of the signs that someone is going to try to get you to buy.  You may have noticed that, consciously or unconsciously, and it may affect your decision about whether you will buy from that salesperson or not.

              In High Probability Selling, we don’t try to build relationships.  Relationships come from doing business, not the other way around.